This one high pitched officemate of mine gave me headache the last time we were together, her voice seemed soothing even to the smallest nerve of my eardrum. It was not only the high pitched tone that hurts, but her non stop talking, asking and yet not listening to your answers and always pretending as participant in argumentation and debates program (She scrutinized smallest issues and discussed it to us.)
Once she noticed us making fun of her voice and she told us to stop laughing at her voice…for we might have a child like her…We pleaded to her not to curse us…well I advised her already not to drink cold water for her throat’s sake…I could not believe when she confessed to me that she could afford not to talk a whole day long… Come on…as if elephants could really fly…
Our voice is a very important part of our image; it is also the cutting edge of one personality with a language all its own which people recognizes and responds to immediately. It can elicit a wide range of negative responses- irritation, rejection, even hatred. Or it can bring forth love, peace, happiness and vibrant enthusiasm to anyone who hears you speak whether it's face-to-face, on the phone, public speech or media appearance. Its unlimited possibilities can be your greatest tool.
Is your voice pleasing to the ears of your listener? Does it fit the way you look? Does it sound like a penetrating high pitched nasal whining screech?
Well there are many ways to improve the tone of voice but for me, I thought to improve my listening skills in order to cope with her, so I searched for tips and applied it to her.
Approach the listening experience from a state of- to be centered is to be calm at a very deep level, to be without agendas or predispositions as to the outcome, and to be open to experience. Centeredness is a prerequisite to truly open listening.
Never rule out any topic of discussion as uninteresting- creative people are always on the lookout for new information. While some conversations may be inane, it's wise to make sure the subject is not worthwhile before tuning out.
Accept the speaker's message- on the face of it, this would seem to be an argument for gullibility--for believing almost anything anyone tells you. It's not. The point here is to suspend judgment during the immediate experience of listening.
Listen for the whole message-One estimate has it that 75% of all communication is non-verbal. If you take away the words, what's left? Plenty, it turns out. Beyond the words themselves is a host of clues as to what the speaker is communicating.
Tune out distractions-poor listeners is distracted by interruptions; good listeners tune them out and focus on the speaker and the message. It's a discipline that lends itself to specific techniques for maintaining one's focus.
Be alert to your own prejudices- this goes along with #3 above, but it's so important that you may want to think specifically about the impact of your prejudices on your ability to really hear what's being communicated.
Resist the temptation to rebut-why is it that, when we hear someone saying something with which we strongly disagree, we immediately begin mentally formulating a rebuttal?
Those tips did work, I patiently listened and understood her…but I still need a pill for my headache… I will just apply those tips to other speakers… I think my headphone will work much better next time with her…lol Peace Girl!
To you pal… I love you….nothing personal just blogging lol….Instead of hating me in this blog…try to lower and modulate your voice please…it’s for your own good…well for our ears too.
We must let aware the persons concerned to be aware of...
To you pal… I love you….nothing personal just blogging lol….Instead of hating me in this blog…try to lower and modulate your voice please…it’s for your own good…well for our ears too.
We must let aware the persons concerned to be aware of...